Cuckolding Myths Debunked
According to the porno on the topic, all cuckold relationships involved interracial sex and sex-deprived sissy husbands with tiny penises wearing panties. How close is the porno “ideal” to the real-life practice of cuckoldry? The world-renown sex researchers at the Kinsey Institute undertook a decade-long study of 5,000 men and women engaged in the lifestyle to find out. The results are often surprising and counter-intuitive. Here are some of the important excerpts with major points highlighted in bold.
Kinsey Survey on Cuckolding / Hotwife Lifestyles
I. Cuckolds
“According to the results of this survey, the so-called ‘typical’ cuckold is a very well-educated, white man in his thirties or forties who lives in the United States. He earns well above the average wage and is most likely to be in a long-term relationship or first marriage. He does not have self esteem issues and considers himself an Alpha Male with an above-average sized penis. Despite that, he enjoys being sexual humiliated by his unfaithful wife and in particular may enjoy penis humiliation. He is most commonly sexually dominant to his wife but he enjoys the loss of control and responsibility being in this unique sub-space offers. His enjoyment in loss of control is fulfilled by having little or no choice in how his wife pursues sexual partners.”
“Cuckolds report having sex with their wives at roughly the same frequency as the general population surveyed in the Kinsey Reports, which is at odds with a popular perception that they are denied marital sex. However, they consider themselves to need more mental, visual, and aural stimulation than other men and say they enjoy masturbation and vivid fantasy more than the average male.”
“He is likely to have been initially drawn to cuckolding by a related experience, or by the arousal experienced at the idea of his wife having sex with another man; an idea cemented when his lust and passion for his wife increased after she has been with another man, a response, say Kinsey researchers into the male brain, caused by the stimulation of mating hormones.”
“There is a 50% chance he is bisexual or at least bi-curious, though he may not be actively aware of this.”
II. Cuckoldresses / Hotwives
“The terms Cuckoldress and Hotwife are frequently used on an interchangeable basis; there are some differing views in the Cuckolding/Hotwife community with respect to the meanings people make of these terms. For those that consider their relationship Cuckolding, there is general support in the belief that the wife is the dominant partner and the husband is submissive, so the cuckoldress does what she pleases in respect to her sex life—though she may choose to do this in consultation with her husband. For those who prefer the term Hotwiving, the structure of the relationship is based more on the wife either having her husband’s permission to take other partners, being in equal partnership, or even the husband having a dominant role in directing the wife’s sexual exploits. However, individual relationships may stray across both definitions. So a relationship that defines itself as Cuckolding may also give equal voice to both husband and wife when choosing her sex partners, just as one that defines itself as a Hotwife relationship may be based on the husband taking a submissive role.”
“The so-called ‘typical’ Cuckoldress / Hotwife is a very attractive, well-educated, employed, white woman in her early thirties who lives in the United States. She is most likely to be in her first marriage and have been married or in a de facto relationship for 11-plus years. She tends to have an above-average sex drive and an above-average fantasy life.”
“Despite describing her husband as an Alpha Male in life generally, the Hotwife/Cuckoldress enjoys taking a dominant role to her husband in pursuing extramarital lovers, typically taking a submissive role with each of them. While she enjoys the complete sexual freedom and choice that Cuckolding offers, there are also other factors that contribute to making it an attractive lifestyle, including the pleasure of being worshipped or adored by her husband for her sexuality, the mental and emotional stimulation that a variety dating / sex partners can provide, and a perception that she holds the ultimate power and control in the relationship. She may also enjoy knowing her affairs with her lovers arouse jealousy and sexual arousal in her husband.”
“Contrary to the very popular myth that cuckoldresses prefer their lovers to be Black, the women in this survey showed overwhelming preference toward their own race or the race of their husbands. Based on the data collected in this survey, Cuckoldresses continue to have sex with their husbands with the same frequency as women in monogamous relationships. Again this is at odds with common assumptions that the cuckold husband is not permitted to have, or has infrequent sex relations with his wife. The majority of the Cuckoldresses strongly believe that the key to a good Cuckolding relationship is that the couple involved is able to separate love from sexual desire.”
